Newbie Warning & Hobby Terms





To start...

Seeing an Escort or Dominatrix for the first time is just as scary for us as it is you. 

People in general are good but there are scumbags on both sides.

Make sure to know as much as you can about the lady you want to spend time with.

Both sides have Police who feel they are protecting consenting adults from having fun with other consenting adults is equally a concern. so always trust your gut, if something makes you feel like you should pause, STOP- figure it out and if you are just not sure, just stay on the side of caution. 

I am picky for a reason, I have years invested in this "hobby" and just because you feel you are OK for me to see - does not mean I will, or another lady will. 

The worst thing a newbie can do is -push, the best thing he can do is really read a providers website to see what she likes. We are all different.

Since there are no real rules in this hobby we all get to pick what works for us.

Respect our personal preferences/rules or simply move on, whining about something is NOT going to get us to change our mind and very well could get you black listed.

If emailing a provider, have your thoughts together so you only send ONE email!

Asking questions that are answered on a providers website makes you seem like a timewaster and again can get you blacklisted.

Most great providers such as myself get more emails in a day than we can possibly answer- make your subject line something to catch our eye. 

When I wake up, I spend the first ten minutes of the morning just deleting emails without opening them which is unfortunate because of course some good guys get overlooked but I only have so much time- and yes time is money!

I must first answer people I have already met, messages from TER or P411, then my website's screening form, and then if I have time-- emails from newbies--- that just took you a minute to read that right- imagine what we deal with!!!!!!!!

Website screening forms are not as scary as some would have you think. It is the smartest way to make sure you are providing all the information she wants to start with.

My screening form is processed overseas so there is no risk of LE getting it.

Sending screening info to gmail etc is just plain dumb with the sharing rules you now have to agree to.

click-- offers a newbie board. You do not have to pay to read this. It supplies lots of great feedback from many diferent view points.



To pick a lady...

Regardless if it is me, do YOUR homework.

Just as you should and have the right to pick what lady you want to spend your money on, know that we too have the right to only see men we feel we will have the best time with. 

I only see a small percent of the people who would like to see me. Money will not guarantee you a date with me.

1- read her site, respect her rules, make proper contact - usually a website screening form is the prefered way, and enjoy the waiting -planning part of the fun!

2-Verify she has reviews on recent ones- good ones, read a few to make sure she sounds like what you need/want.

Do respect that the more of a gentleman you are, the more she will reward you.

We know what you want, do you know what we want? The more you care about us, the more we will care about you.

If you just want some crackhead to suck your dick, you can get that, but know that is what you are getting!!!!

If you want a lady who is clean, safe, discrete, smart, fun, and values your business, show us and know those values come with a higher price tag.

Please be cautious - a site that a lady can say she is authenticated on does not mean anything other than her pictures were probably her at one time or look like her.

REVIEWS - current reviews from guys reviewing others are going to be the best bet to help you pick.

Keep in mind reviews are NOT always an accurate reflection of time spent with a provider.

Sadly many reviews are FAKE. 

Years ago I had to have a 10/10 review removed because it was fake- most ladies would have kept it because the numbers are the best you can get however in the review I was a total porn star doing stuff I simply do not do, this caused a problem for a few weeks for me as guys all of a sudden thought I was offering things I will never do.

So although reviews are a good base, look at the overall review history and play safe.






Be on time, if running late be in touch, know that the date started when you agreed it would. 

The provider may have other plans and she cannot extend your time, but you do owe the full amount if she was ready...

I'm stating the following because sadly this is not common sense to all!!!!

TRIM your pubs PLEASE!!!!! almost nothing worse than a face full of pubic hair- totally gross!!!!!!!!!

Pop a mint in your mouth just before the door is opening!!!

Wash your hands at the very least in front of her- really taking a shower and washing your junk WITH lots of soap is rewarded everytime!!!!!

I have had more than one guy get in the shower- let the water run on him and him come out without any smell of my soap on him...

You can take a shower at home and by the time you get to her location have become sweaty and start to have an odor... 

If you are uncut, please pull that skin back and be extremely clean...

I either will only be minutes out of washing myself or will literally put my ass in your sink if I am arriving to see you!!!!

Nothing ruins intimacy like unpleasant odors...


If you do not know how to handle giving her the gift/donation BEFORE you get to the door, YOU have already got a problem on your hands.  

This is unacceptable.

NO LADY wants you to hand money to her, talk about it, gesture towards it, mention it.

If a lady has not made it clear like I have...

If I am coming to see you, have it in the bathroom, marked happy birthday or something 

If you are coming to see me, put it down where you are going to leave your phone and stuff - when you get ready to go, you will just leave it there


Do not ask too personal of questions - especially what is your real name, or does your family know you do this???


If you are going for a GFE session, do not focus on getting the girl off...

WHAT did I just say????? LOL

So many men become so focused on being validated as a good lover, they get themselves stressed out and do not function as they would if they were just relaxed and enjoyed the time.

I promise NO provider is keeping a score card.

One of the best things a new client ever said to me was, "If I can help you enjoy yourself, great please let me know, if not please do not fake it"

We had a fabulous time because he was realistic that 30 seconds into my legs being spread the big O was not going to happen!!!!

If you like all the theatrics and screaming O's, I'm honestly not the one!!!!

I'm a companion not an actress... but absolutely nothing wrong with wanting all that!!


Although this session is your date, your fantasy time - if the lady has rules clearly stated on her site, do not push the limits thinking you are so special....

The provider might smile her way through whatever it is you are doing and then immediately blast you on a black list.

Best bet is find a provider who states what you are looking for is available.



SIMPLE, get it?! DO NOT EVER break these rules!

If you even think you might want to extend the date, know how to handle that before time. 

WARNING GUYS- there are sadly a lot of "ladies" who take advantage of guys by pulling scams like this...

girl arrives, she gets gift/donation from you- then says something like oh she forgot something in the car...

BEWARE, you will need to decide how to handle this but this is most likely not going to end well... 

If you are giving a provider a drink, it is best to give it to her unopened- ask her if she would like you to open it if this applies and do not be offended if a provider does not take something you prepared out of her sight. Let a bartender hand her the drink directly if out.

Do not overstay your time. This can be very uncomfortable for a provider if you are still chatting away, undressed and your appointment was over... more than a few minutes ago. Nothing kills a great time like having to say we need to wrap this up!!!


In the event you cancel within 24 hours, regardless if it is for a reason within your control, you absolutely should ask how to donate at least half of the session to the lady especially if you have no prior relationship with her.

If you cancel on me within 24 hours I require half of the session to be gifted within 48 hours or I will blacklist you unless I know you well then I may only just ask you to prepay our next date.




The biggest compliment you can give a provider is to see her again.

Most people will find follow up dates are indeed better for both.

The nerves have subsided, you get to feel eachother out, etc.

Some providers such as myself in certain areas will see you for a return visit at a reduced gift because the hard part of screening is out of the way. 

All providers should understand you might want to explore all the providers out there.

No provider should make you feel you are doing something wrong by asking for a reference- however you are doing something wrong if you do not follow her policy. 

If it is not stated like mine, (see my reference page) ask politely something like I had a great time, I would like next like to see __ would you mind being a reference, if you are willing, how should this happen.

If the provider does not answer, either she does not have time, she does not want to, or maybe she did not get the email.

I would not recommend sending a follow up email- just move on, pestering her probably will not grant you the reference you were looking for!

I highly recommend P411 for ease of always having a starting point with references.

You can pay to join and let P411 verify you or get two girls to vouch for you.

DO NOT EVER GIVE A PROVIDERS personal info to the next provider without consent- this is not cool.

Although we like to hear from you occasionally if it is something special, sending in messages after the date that does not deal with the next date should be VERY limited. 

Also a great review is a way to let the lady know you appreciated thetime, but only after confirmin it is OK with the provider.





The Escort business has a lot of terms to make conversation tricky for a newbie so let me clarify some things you might not know!!

Thebest thing is to always be discrete!


A hobbyist- a person paying for a providers time


A newbie- somebody new to the hobby.


The hobby- the practice of seeing providers.


Providers- Escorts, Dominatrix, etc


GFE- this is a loosely used term that more women should make clear of what they are willing to do. I state on my home page GFE means to me DFK, LFK, BBBJ, CFS, DATY, MSOG


DFK- deep french kissing


LFK- light french kissing


CFS- covered full service -meaning vaginal sex with a condom. I use female condoms. Please do not ever inquire with me about not using a condom for intercourse. 


BBBJ- a blow job that does not require a condom. 


CBJ- a blow job that a condom is worn.


DATY- dining at the Y, means you may provide oral sex on the woman-cunnilingus Do not assume the woman should be thrilled you want to pleasure her. Sadly most men do not have a clue what they are doing down there so many providers decide the risk of being injured by some new date biting them is simply not worth offering this service. a provider / hobbyist verification site


MSOG- you can ejaculate more than one time. You would "think" if you pay for three hours and you can cum three times you should be allowed to- no, this is a weird thing - many providers say one and done. I encourage you to offer as much as you can during your stated donation time. It would be extremly rude for a hobbyist to try to go for another shot 5 minutes before time is coming to an end- so please be respectful of the girls time.


FIV- finger in vagina, I'm personall NOT a fan of this at all. Your tongue or cock will do just fine!!!


Foreplay- this is intimate between the people engaged in the sexual acts prior to the expected main event


FBSM- full body sensual massage. This is my favorite thing to have done to me. Massage my shoulders for a few minutes and I usually will start purring!!!!! 


GREEK- anal sex


STRAP ON PLAY- I fuck you with a strap on dick in whatever body part you offer up!!

P411- is a verification site that all reputable providers should be able to offer you a way to vouch for you on there so you can see other ladies without having to bother the previous provider for a reference.


PSE- porn star expierence, I do not offer this. It is usually a very cold rushed quickie session- usually involves anal sex, some times vaginal sex without a condom, facials (men coming on womans face), degrading dirty talk, etc. 


Reference- a way to have a lady vouch for you. ASK or read what each lady offers- if she offers them. I only provide them through Datecheck or P411. 


TER a place to read reviews, threads about the hobby, and to communicate with other paid members. If the lady you want to see is not reviewed on there, be extra careful.





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